If you keep telling yourself you’re not good enough, I want to share two important messages with you:
- You are enough.
- You’re not alone.
Feeling like you’re not good enough is a symptom of the human condition. It’s something every human thinks and feels at some point (or at many points) in their life, whether they have a chronic illness or not.
You don’t feel this way because you have a chronic illness or autoimmune disease that knocks you on your ass, you feel this way because you’re human, and the human brain is, well…a jerk. Seriously.
Why you keep telling yourself this
Our brains are hard-wired to repeat patterns and find the easiest path from point A to point B, which means they fall into default mode. And default mode is often repeating the same sentences and stories you’ve been telling yourself for years.
That means, if you’ve ever told yourself you’re not good enough in the past (not good enough at your chores, not well-behaved enough as a child, not good at sports, at writing, at speaking, at school, at your job, as a parent, as a spouse, as a *fill-in-the-blank-with-anything*), your brain is going to keep repeating it every chance it gets. Because that’s what it’s familiar with.
So it’s no wonder that when you feel sick and you can’t get out of bed to go to work or make dinner or, let’s be honest, even shower, your brain is going to tell you you’re not good enough.
‘Not good enough’ may not be the exact words your brain uses against you, but whatever the words are, they boil down to the same thing: self-doubt, self-loathing, and shame.
And there’s no way to be happy in life when you’re telling yourself that story and feeling that way about yourself.
Changing your Not Good Enough story
A few months back, I got an email from a self-improvement brand I follow that shared a video. And this video changed my life. I swear.
I’ve watched it at least five times and shared it with dozens of people in my life. Now I want to share it with you.
This video is a recording of a UK psychologist, Marisa Peer. She’s made it her mission to teach people around the globe that they are, in fact, enough.
In the video, she shares stories of some of the clients she’s helped overcome their not-enoughness, gives examples of how you can do the work to change your outlook about yourself, and also gives you some tidbits on how to handle situations you hate (in a way that made me laugh out loud, hard).
It’s definitely worth the 42 minutes you’ll spend watching it (which is more like 210 minutes for me — I’ve watched it five times, remember?).
I challenge you to free up some time to sit down and watch this video with an open mind and heart, without distraction, so you can change your life. Even if it’s not as earth-shattering for you as it was for me, you’ll get something out of it.
And then, if you want to take it further and do the ‘I am enough’ work, you can do her free 20-minute meditation on Youtube.
But first things first…the video.
And let me be the first to tell you, you are enough, my friend.